10 Life Choices You’ll Regret In 10 Years Time
This is the story of no regrets. Of never settling. Of creating a life you love. It is a story of saying no to negative people, of visualizing dreams and making them a reality.
If only… If only I had taken that chance. If only I had taken that leap of faith. If only I had told her I loved her. If only I had told him how much he meant to me instead of watching him walk away.
Imagine if your entire life was full of “If onlys….” Here are 10 choices you will live to regret in 10 years time. Never settle…
- Accepting negative people as a part of your life. Don’t allow someone who has a constant negative disposition to give it to you. Negativity breeds negativity. Keeping the company of a negative person is a choice, not an obligation. Rid your life of negative people and fill your life with compassion, and people who will drive you forward. Sometimes this involves breaking friendships but I can tell you that in the long term – it will allow you to be a better person.
- Waiting until tomorrow. Everybody does it. Putting it off until tomorrow. The problem is – we don’t have unlimited tomorrows. Problem is – one day you will wake up and realise that you have run out of time to do all the things that you wanted to do. At this point you will either look down at the list of dreams you have achieved or a list of excuses as to why you haven’t.
- Not being yourself– wearing a mask to impress others. When you concentrate all your time worrying or thinking about what others think of you – you become who they want you to be and not who you actually are. I should know this – I spent 25 years of my life trying to be somebody that I’m not. It’s exhausting. Don’t fear the judgement of others – let them be impressed by your imperfections. And if they’re not – get rid of them from your life (See #1)
- Settling for what you have right now.I see this every single day. If you’re settling for what you have right now, you have no dreams. SETTLE FOR NOTHING! Wake up every single day and be better than you were the day before. Let go of the old and make way for the new. Stop going through the motions. Stop counting the days until Friday. This is no way to live your life.
- Staying put. This world is a melting pot of endless opportunities. “If only I had travelled.” Get out there and see the places that are on your bucket list. And don’t tell me you don’t have a bucket list. Everybody has dreams of places they want to visit. I’ve always been good at visualization. From a very young age I wanted to go and live in Australia. My bedroom as a kid was covered wall to wall in cut outs from holiday brochures of Australia, self made drawings, print outs from the internet, posters of Australia. Everybody thought I was crazy. When I turned 18 I went to Australia on my own, for the first time. At the age of 23 I emigrated to Australia. Albeit I’m back now but the message is there. California was in the top 3 of my bucket list and I went there in 2014. NEVER SETTLE.
- Letting someone else take control of your dreams. Discovering who you are can be the biggest challenge you will ever face – but it’s important to take a few steps back sometimes and ask yourself – is this really me? Stay true to yourself and your own goals. Have you ever had someone say “that’s crazy” or “you’re mental” in relation to a thought or idea you’ve had? I get it EVERY SINGLE DAY. And do you know what? Crazy ideas are the ones that make me who I am. Have you ever lost track of time because of excitement? When I get an idea – I literally DO NOT STOP until it becomes reality. Sometimes this involves dropping everything else for 24 hours. Sometimes it involves not going to bed for 4 days straight. That’s called passion. Find your passion. Don’t live your life for somebody else’s dreams.
- Being lazy and layabout. The world doesn’t owe you anything – you owe it to yourself to give something to the world. Stop laying around expecting the good stuff to come to you. Take responsibility for the life you have and take control of your future. Your dreams are not just going to land in your lap, you have to go out and chase them. Develop a backbone not a wishbone. Don’t wait for someday.Someday is NOW. Don’t expect others to take control for you.
- Giving up when things get tough. If I had given up when things get tough, I would’ve given up on my life 20 years ago. Things have been MEGA tough for me – and this is not a “woe on me” statement – it’s the truth. The thing is, difficulty creates determination. The term ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ may be a cliché but BLOODY HELL it is true. In business, times have been so tough in the last 2 years that I have literally lost count of the number of times I have thrown in the towel and said “fuck it – I can’t do this anymore”. But here I am, building an empire. In my personal life, things got so tough that I’ve had low moments that most will never ever need to experience (thankfully). Did I give up though?No I didn’t. When things get tough – find out what you can learn from it and move on. Never give up on your dreams.
- Being selfish and egotistical.What you have done for yourself dies with you alone. What you have done for others and the world remains in the world forever. Inspire others. Share yourself with others daily. Do some things for you, but do many things for others. Leave a mark that stays around long after your time has expired.
- Caring more about what others think of you than what you think of you. Seriously – who cares what other people think? If I stopped and gave it a thought, I would probably hide under the covers and never come back out. The thing is, if people are hating on you – it means you’ve made it. When you become successful – you quickly realise who your real friends are. This has been huge for me. Keep the ones who drive you forward and are there for you no matter what and no matter how long it has been since you last saw them. Ditch the ones who only talk about themselves. Be interested.Surround yourself with like-minded people who will DRIVE YOU FORWARD. Get rid of the rest. I realise I have said this twice but I feel very strongly about it.
Wow – that was quite an emotional piece to write. I trust you have found it useful and I hope you can apply some of the 10 points to your own life so that you can fulfil you OWN dreams. If you haven’t written a bucket list yet – do it. Write down 10 things that you want to do or achieve.
It would be cool if you could let me know what your top 3 things are, and what you’re going to do about it..