5 Simple Ways of Living with Uncertainty
It’s a funny thing, uncertainty – some people deal better with it than others – but I think it would be safe to say that all of us are struggling in one way or another at this time.
Nothing is certain.
Nobody really knows when things are going to go back to normal.
Will things go back to normal?
What will ‘normal’ even be like?
I can’t answer these questions for you, but I can give you a few little ideas that will help you to overcome some of the overwhelming anxiety that comes with all of these unanswered questions.
1. Accept that, right now, some things are out of your control.
This is a hard one. Coming from someone who likes to be in control of every aspect of her life, it’s been a really hard pill to swallow and has taken me a VERY long time to come to terms with. We have to accept that we’re just not in control of when things will return to any kind of ‘normal’ and learn to adapt and change to the circumstances as they adapt and change around us.
2. Take one day at a time
Again, if you’re a planner like me, this one might be a challenge too. We can only take one day at a time right now and no more. Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring, let alone next week. Compare this period of time to a blank novel. The only page that is filled with writing is today’s page. Tomorrow is a blank page until tomorrow arrives and then you get to write on that page.
3. Stop comparing your situation to everyone else’s
When this lockdown situation started, people were printing out cute little schedules for their weeks and laminating them for the kids. Eight weeks down the line nobody has a fucking clue what day it is, you’ve forgotten to feed the kids lunch 3 days in a row and you’ve run out of gin – AGAIN. You do you and let everyone else do them. This is not a ‘keeping up with the Jones’ effort people – this is a ‘let’s just survive today’ game.
4. Talk about how you’re feeling
Talk to someone about how you’re feeling – I can almost guarantee you’ll get a ‘me too’ response. We’re all feeling the weird effects of this unprecedented (gosh I sound like Bozza) time and it’s good to share how you’re feeling. It might even help the person you talk to as well. If you don’t feel like talking to a friend or family member then you could use an online service like SHOUT text service (text the word SHOUT to 85258).
5. Make plans for when this shit is over
Get excited about what you’re going to do when this is all over. No, we don’t know when that will be just yet – but that’s not to say you can’t make plans. What’s the first thing you’re going to do? Who is the first person you’re going to visit? Where will you go? Write it down as a little reminder of what you can look forward to – it will help bring some positivity to the situation.
Take good care of yourself, take one day at a time and one day we’ll look back at this period of our lives and see the positives (even if you can’t see them right now).